Introduction

In spite of the proliferation of social media, many today still feel alone and disconnected. People are crying out for someone to listen. The church should be a place where people know how to listen well. Unfortunately, individualism has become the dominant attitude even among Christians. We no longer listen to one another as we should. It is time for us to change this mindset. We must actively listen well to each other to learn how to love each other as spiritual friends. How do we listen to one another in love?

Three Ways

1. Be *aware* of God’s presence in any conversation. (Matt 18:20) – To listen well, you must acknowledge God’s presence in every conversation. Only in this way will you see the sacredness of every encounter. Don’t just assume that He is present; acknowledge Him and ask Him to guide your conversation so that He will be glorified as you fulfill His purpose.

2. Be *attentive* to the other person’s interests or needs. (Philippians 2:3-4; Ephesians 4:29) – Don’t focus on yourself when talking with someone. Be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. If you are to speak, say only what the other person needs and not more than that. Learn to be silent as you listen. It’s more important to know what they have to say.

3. Be *available* to learn and minister in love. (Proverbs 16:24) – Your presence must be a blessing to others. Listen to God even as you listen to the other person. Listen in order to learn and minister to the person you are talking to. Stop telling the other person what you know. Don’t judge. Instead, be humble as you listen.

Conclusion

1. Central Idea: “To *listen* well is to *love* well.”

2. The first act of love is always the giving of attention.

3. Next time you are in a conversation, listen well.

Discussion

1. Why is it difficult to listen well to each other?

2. What have you learned that can enable you to listen well?

3. How will you apply this in your next conversation?